Many people feel powerless in managing their anger. However, by taking appropriate action, you could change this.
Actions you can take to reduce excessive anger:
Try to develop some clarity as to what elicits or causes anger in you. Consider what provokes you and what thoughts or past associations trigger the anger within you. This understanding alone may serve to reduce the intensity of your anger.
Reduce your overall level of stress by stress-reduction strategies e.g. breath awareness and breathing exercises based on mindfulness practices drawn mainly from the Eastern traditions.
Think about the negative consequences of your excessive anger, often accompanied by a loss of control. Consider how this affects your relationships with others such as your partner, children,siblings, friends and co-workers.
Remember, you can have all your needs met by negotiation and without excessive anger. You do not have to prove yourself by getting angry or winning against someone.
Latchman P. Narain, Ph.D., Founder and Director of Anger Management Centre of Toronto Inc., is an anger management specialist holding a Bachelor of Science degree in Biochemistry and a Post-Master’s Education in Counselling Psychology. He is a former teacher, guidance counsellor, parent educator and group facilitator.
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