Avoid taking things personally. When people are rude to you, it is usually how they relate to themselves rather than a reflection of you. If they have a poor relationship with themselves, it will show up in how they treat others and, in this case, rather you. As such we must avoid taking things personally as much as possible. In fact, it is almost ...
In many instances, when the Crown agrees to withdraw a criminal charge, it does so on the condition that the accused person enters a peace bond first. A peace bond is not an admission of guilt and does not result in a finding of guilt. It is essentially a promise to the court by the accused person to keep the peace and be of good behaviour and to ...
The recent murder of Elana Fric-Shamji in Vaughan, Ontario, Canada, to my mind, demonstrates that we still live in a culture that is sexist (inequality of gender), misogynist (a person who dislikes, despises, or is strongly prejudiced against women), and promotes violence, in all its forms, against women.
"When you get to tell someone off, you might feel pretty good for a while, but somehow the sense of righteous indignation and hatred grows, and it hurts you. It’s as if you pick up hot coals with your bare hands and throw them at your enemy. If the coals happen to hit him, he will be hurt. But in the meantime, you are guaranteed to be burned."
Domestic violence has been in the news, and has been the subject of commentaries and editorials in the media, both nationally and internationally. It is a major social problem in all countries of the world, including Canada.
Many persons believe that in a conflictual situation, they can control others by using excessive anger and that this is a permanent solution to the conflict. This may apply in the short term if the other person becomes fearful as in the case of a child, and caves in to your demands but it is generally not true in the long term.
We are constantly talking to ourselves either verbally or in our minds.
Both research and experience show that when persons with anger problems change the way they talk to themselves, their anger level drops and they often regain control of themselves.
The following is a letter I wrote in response to a question from a client.
First of all, I want to say that anger is a very pervasive problem in our society and the level of anger in some individuals seems to be spiraling out of control. As a society, we pay a huge cost for uncontrolled anger in the form of broken families, medical bills and entanglements with the law.
Some Situations/Conditions that could lead to anger
Anger is fundamentally caused by the way a person thinks or perceives certain situations. The following factors could serve as triggers, resulting in anger:
Anger is one of the major problems of our times. Recent research indicates that out of control or unresolved anger is the root cause of many anti-social behaviours in our society. Examples of these are partner assault, gambling, and child abuse.